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Just because I’m a widow; doesn’t mean I can’t be happy anymore. WORLD WIDOW WOMENS DAY

Tuesday, June 21, 2011 | by Aditya Bhasin | , , , , , , , ,





The title of this post is the plight of every widow women in this world; especially in Asian countries like India, Pakistan, Afghanistan and Bangladesh.  

People in these countries are still not ready to accept widow women as part of society. I agree that there is been a major change in mentality of people in past few decades but the idea of not accepting a widow women as part of our society still prevails in many parts of India.

If we look into statistics there are 24 cr 50 lakh widow women in this world, out of which 4 cr 20 lakh widow are from India. In Europe the number of widow women is 13% of their population and out of all the widows 11 cr 60 lakh widow women lives below poverty line.

In December last year, UN declared June 23 as World Widow Day. This was done in order to make this world realize that there is a section of society who is not happy to some extent and are bound to leave in many restrictions. I fully support this idea and believe that we as a world need to understand the issues and problems attached to life of widow women in this male dominated society.

I would particularly talk about the situation of widow women in India. The problem with Indian ideology is that we know it well that how many MBA executives, IIT Graduates and IAS Officers we will need in 2020, but we don’t know that what will be the number & condition of widow women in country will be like in 2020.

If we go in villages of Haryana and Rajasthan, a widow woman there is still treated to be a curse on family and is considered un-auspicious. The families there are still not ready to accept that if the woman is a widow; she is not because of her will. She is because of some reason beyond her control. Death of a human being is neither in any man’s hand nor in any women’s. But she is still treated in way that it was because of her; the husband died.

The condition of Indian Widow Women is at an extremely poor and unacceptable stage. The war widow of 1971 war were questioned when they re-married. 15 % Children of widow women die before the age of 5. The government in India gives widow women pension of Rs 400 only.

On this world women widows day; I really think that government should take some serious steps to make the situation of widow women better in country.

In my opinion following things should be considered seriously:-

1)    Widow Remarriage should be ACCEPTED MORALLY all across the country especially in villages where the idea of widow remarriage is still not accepted;
2)    The women should be made self reliant by some kind of educational or job-oriented programs;
3)     It should be made compulsory for children to take care of their widow mother and don’t send her to some old age home;
4)    Centers to live and work must be developed in order to give these women a better living;
5)    The amount of pension should be increased to a relevant amount.

The major thing I would like to focus on is that if a widower men can remarry then why not a women. I know that widow remarriage is now accepted in Metropolitan cities but what about the small cities and villages, where a widow woman is still not allowed to remarry. If a woman dies than why not her husband is blamed upon for killing his wife, which happens when husband dies and woman is blamed for killing him.

A widower man lives a very normal life and doesn’t face any problems while living in society, but why a woman has to face these problems.


On this Worlds Widow Women day. I pledge to support this cause and believe that government will surely take some steps in improving the condition of widow women.


P.S.This is post was written by Aditya Bhasin for his personal blog
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Person who sacrifice most...!

Sunday, November 28, 2010 | by Aditya Bhasin |



We all have sacrificed  some or other time for someone or else ,Somebody sacrificed for his or her boy(girl) friend ,somebody did that for parents ,somebody sacrificed  for for themselves and the list continues ,Few days back sitting in my room I was just thinking about who in this world  sacrifices most, or has a ability to sacrifice in future utmost giving this a thought for quite a long time and taken lot of live examples in consideration I reached the conclusion that the answer to 'Who Sacrifices Most ?”
Is
Women
Lot of you may find this as a bold feminist approach but it was after a long thought I came to the answer and Now I strongly agree to this.
Here goes my list of reasons why I think Women Sacrifices most all across her life ,In all the stages of age .....
1) When a girl is born she sacrifices for the fact that she is a girl  many of old people still think that girl child is curse on them....
2) When there is just a little celebration on girl's first birthday whereas there is big time celebration on first deepwali,first lohri,first dussera,and many of other first festivals for the baby boy in same family as of that girl ...She scarifies again....!
3) She sacrifices when it comes to getting into school She gets into a 'some' public school and the boy in the family gets into 'SOME' big name school  because the family thinks 'Girl after all have to go to some other house and boy will take care of family' She again sacrifices...!
4) When at age of  18 the school trip goes to Mumbai Her parents tell here 'you're a kid you can't go '  and when her brother age 17 Fly's to Bangkok with friends and school...She again sacrifices
5) When every month she is asked to not to visit temples ,not to touch the pickle box & is considered un-pure for some days ....She again sacrifices...!
6) When after school she is asked to take admission in some arts or commerce college  where as her brother studies at IIT or some other big engineering college ..She again sacrifices...!
7) When She is about to get married she is  treated  as display item at some high street shop....She again sacrifices  ....!
8) When She marries she leaves her parents home to go with another family to live her rest of life....She again sacrifices....!
9) When after marriage She drops her surname and adds  a different surname to her name ....She again sacrifices....!
10) When after marriage she is asked not to work and be a homely wife...She again sacrifices...!
11) When (If) her husband dies at young age she is treated to be a curse and is accused of killing her husband,She again sacrifices....!
12) When being a widow she is asked not to remarry ...She again sacrifices...!
13) When at some stage in her life she tell her children to play a old song of Mukesh Kumar and her children tell her  “Mom not now “.....She again sacrifices...!
14) When her husband comes back home from office she ask him to take her out for sometime and He refuses....She again sacrifices....!
15) When in chilling weather she is asked to get tea for her husband  ....She again sacrifices....!
And this thing continues all her life...She sacrifice...She sacrifices...She sacrifices....!
Hats off to all the women there...!
P.S. This post does not blames any individual in any manner whatsoever,The views mentioned are of author himself and may not have a acceptance of other section of society,If anything in this post is found to be unacceptable by readers...The author apologies...!


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